Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before?

Right now I am a 16 year old girl in the 10th grade, great group of friends, and making all A's in school.



I'm really not sure how everything happened. But I was a 14 year old girl and started talking to people I knew on a popular online game called Second Life. When I say knew, I mean as in they knew my online name, my online age, and my online life. But one day I decided I was close enough to one lady and told her my age. I understood the possibilities of old men and creepers and stuff, but I took the chance.



I got lucky too, this girl, we'll call her A, actually being 24 and having a regular, not creeper life, a few states away from me. We spent a whole summer attached at the hip from miles away, and living our lives beside each other. It was a GREAT summer. She ended up being the best friend I ever had, because she was an adult, yet she understood me. We talked on the phone, texted, skyped, yahoo IMed, and hung out on Second Life. I knew her real life family as well. However, all this was done behind my parents' back. That was my life for about half a year.



About 2 weeks before my 15th birthday, my mom came home from work and told me to give her my phone and get off the computer. I was caught, grounded from everything, and was left with nothing to do but cry, draw, and watch TV until school started. Then it was cry, draw, watch TV, and school. My mom told me that I only liked this girl because of the way she could talk to me like people my age couldn't. But I disagreed. Even through all this, I succeeded at getting contact of this girl and talking to her on my friends' phones, their computers, and my mom's work phone. But it was only occasional.



It slowly began to be more and more often, until I slowly earned everything back that i had been grounded from. Then it was constant again. But this time, I didn't text her or do anything with my phone besides Skype. Also, this time, I had talked to two other friends of hers, one being her best friend, and one who was looked at like her daughter (Even though she was 18) and was bound to go back to Saudi Arabia within 2 or 3 years to get married. This girl, we'll call her L, was like my sister and we became as close as siblings. Life was great, and I enjoyed being with these people online, and they loved me, and I loved them.



But I was bound to be caught, and it happened. My parents talked to me one day after school, no yelling, more... worrying. And after we talked, my father made me call A on my phone and he talked her. She said "Yes sir" and was very polite, but when he was done she added, "I'm not a bad person, I just love your daughter very much," and then my dad gave the phone to me, I was to say bye. I couldn't keep in the tears and I was bawling.

"I'm so sorry. Good bye." And those were the last words I have said to her to this day.



Within 3 days, I was back on the internet, on my phone, and laughing in school, because my parents didn't take anything away, they trusted me. And I didn't do anything. I got on skype about a week later and talked to L about everything.(Because they never said anything about her) I told her I couldn't talk to her for a while, but I would get on skype as soon as I can once I turn 18 to talk to her before she leaves for her country.



I really have no clue what I'm feeling these days. I miss A... so much. I would do anything to talk to her, but even if I tried, she would probably be upset because it's dangerous for both of us, because cops could get involved. I'm scared though. My parents said they never wanted me to talk to her again.



What happens when I turn 18? Can I talk to her again without my parents being angry? Should I wait until I'm older? Its a weird situation. I know. But its what happened.

Anyone that can relate to or understand this, please let me know...Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before?
The best thing to do is let it go and go on w/ ur life
The issue here is much bigger than you being a minor, controlled by your parents, and waiting to turn 18 so that you can make your own choices,



What has happened here is that you feel in love with a Saudi Arabian girl who is betrothed to be married. In her culture, this is as serious as being married. What she did with you would be considered very wrong in her culture. It would be considered being unfaithful to her betrothed, and she would die for it. I am not exaggerrating!. In a Muslim's eye's what she did was tantamount to adultery, and brought shame to her family or origin as well as the family she is already as good as married in to.



By their culture, they will be required to kill her if they find out about this. They kill her without a trial, without evidence, even only on suspicion is good enough. They kill her not gently, but by whatever means available: by gunshot, by running over with a car, or even with a hatchet. When she is dead, when the police come to investigate (IF they do), they will not even file a case if they find out that it was an "honor killing."



If you truly love this girl, you must leave her alone. Else, you seriously might get her killed. I would try to forget this girl if you can. And she should try to forget you, because she is stuck in her culture and cannot escape. Women there have no rights and cannot even leave the country without the permission of their male guardian, and that's not gonna happen.And if you were to go there and try to find her, you could get her killed, and she is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim anyway.



If she wants to have a relationship with someone other than an arranged marriage back in Saudi Arabia, she is going to have to leave that country and never go back. Then, and only then, can you realistically have a serious long-term relationship with her.



Maybe if she is brave enough to do this AND you are 18, then the two of you can have a future together. Otherwise, kiss it goodbye.Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before?
I can relate to you. The same thing has happened to me once. And I asked myself the same questions. I am waiting until I am older. And, what I am going to do, is talk to my parents about my decision. Maybe you should do the same.
Well if you know for sure A is a women then I don't think it be very bad to talk to her online every now and then but just don't meet up with her and try not to talk on the phone with her too much because thats how you will get caught. When your 18 its up to you what you want to do. Maybe if you try to talk to your parents when your 18 and tell them that you just want to be friends with her they will be okay with it and trust you. I think you could still talk to her every now and then now. Like write an email once a week to catch up but not more then that. I hope that helps :)Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before?
I was in a similar situation. Once you turn 18 your parents can't keep u frOm seeing them. You should talk to ur parents and tell them how u feel about them. Tell ur parents you've got really close to them and even tho you respect that they care so much and are worried about u, but u no these people are good. If they still don't want u to see her, wait till your 18, because at 18 u are an adult and can decide what u wan to do.
let it go